Here are some ways to recognize and help you deal with managing your hijacks, first your body is an early warning sign like the low fuel light going on in your car. Your body will feel increased heart rate, increase breathing and increase reflexes, decrease in working memory or your thinking brain is foggy and you have less perspective, less judgment and less self-control and you will inevitably make more errors. Being aware of your of your emotions and of others will then allow you to take steps to overcome the hijack and effectively manage others.
Finally some solutions to help you manage, we call this the S.O.S.S.
- STOP- disengage quickly, count to 10, do anything to create a pattern interrupt and engage the Neo Cortex, the thinking part of your brain.
- OXYGENATE- Breath, bring oxygen back to your brain
- SEEK INFORMATION- Ask powerful questions that matter , gain perspective, be genuine and sincere, replace certainty with curiosity
- STRENGTHEN YOUR HEART- Gratitude and appreciation, the brain cannot experience fear and gratitude at the same time, gratitude releases counter chemistry to a hijack
Here are some questions to ask yourselfwhen the situations arise to support your management awareness:
- What was the situation?
- What was your trigger?
- What was your default behavior?
- Who are the people who tend to trigger me?
- What are the situations and scenarios that tend to trigger me?
- What tends to be my “default” behaviors?
- When was the last time someone hurt me?
- When was the last time I was disappointed?
- When have I felt out of control…or without a voice?
The sooner you can manage your emotions the more aware you become of your own you then actually become better at recognizing and helping others manage theirs and this is a very good trait in being a strong and authentic leader.
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